My Husband Thinks I ‘Tricked Him Into Marriage’ As a result of I Secretly Postponed Our Child Plans To Take A 6-Determine Job

A self-described “profitable, skilled lady in [her] early 30s,” who’s “fortunately married with no kids,” wrote to the Atlanta Black Star in search of recommendation on whether or not or not she’s being egocentric by desirous to deal with her profession as an alternative of getting a child.

She and her husband have spent their free time “touring the world, having fun with a real ‘younger couple in love’ expertise,” and he or she explains that it’s been “by design” that they’ve completed so, earlier than embarking on the following a part of their lives— deciding to have a child. 

The girl needs to deal with her six-figure profession as an alternative of getting a child and her husband accused her of ‘tricking him’ into getting married.

She defined that their plan to broaden their household hit a snag when she was provided a promotion at work, which got here with a wage enhance of over $30,000. She stated, “I used to be elated! To see the fruits of my labor come full circle is gratifying, to say the least.”

She introduced her husband with a “revised family-starter plan, sprinkled with all of the luxuries we are able to proceed to take pleasure in and a few stats about extra girls having kids later in life.”

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However her husband didn’t share her sense of pleasure or accomplishment for being provided a significant promotion.

As a substitute of supporting her, he referred to as her egocentric and “even accused me of tricking him into marrying me as a result of I knew that he’d all the time needed kids, and if I don’t actually need kids, I ought to simply say so.”

The girl provided context to her life story, saying that after her father’s demise when she was 12 years outdated, her “steady residence turned the other way up.” She promised herself “by no means to be able the place I couldn’t preserve my life-style with or with out a husband.”

After her husband’s accusation, she “misplaced management and accused him of making an attempt to manage me, making an attempt to restrict my potential and wanting me to depend upon him solely— my childhood trauma got here dashing again.”